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Friday, October 26, 2012

The 8 REAL reasons he won't marry you.

There's one question that replays in the mind of every hopeless romantic . . .

Will you marry me?

If you're like me, you've rehearsed it, imagined it, hinted at it, and longed for it all your life. Grant it, there may not have always been a man you wanted to marry, but you've still dreamt of that moment.

The problem is, sometimes the guy just doesn't seem to get it or feel the same way at all. When this happens it's only natural to think . . .

"What is his problem?"

"Doesn't he want to be with me?"

"Is he cheating on me?"

"Will he ever pop the question?"

The honest truth is, sometimes we have to take a step back and re-evaluate ourselves and ask,

"Is there something I'm doing that's prolonging the process?"

Before you go stark crazy on me, first hear my reasoning. Now this doesn't apply to that totally douche bag guy that you shouldn't be dating in the first place. (you know who he is) This article is about the everyday guy. You kow the one who will call you his girlfriend but that seems about it.

So with that said, here are the REAL reasons he just won't marry you.

1. He can't bring you home to his mom.
There are two types of girls in this world. The ones that are mother worthy and those who are just for the moment fun. The latter tends to dress a little more risque, live wildly, and are in general a hot mess. They're great for doing the fun things with but that's the extent of it. Most men are very fond of their mothers and will gravitate to someone a lot like her. If your someone special refuses to let you meet his mother or family, it may just be because you're not the "one." Don't waste your time.

2. You're doing too much.
Nothing aggravates me more than a woman who goes above and beyond for a man she's just dating. You know the doing his laundry, making him dinner, ironing his clothes, need I go on? If he hasn't put a ring on your finger, you in no way shape or form should be catering to his every need. There is no excuse! Why would he need to marry you when you're doing everything for free? You're slowly decreasing your stock value.

3. You're being sexually intimate with him.
Yes I said it. If you're having sexual relations with your partner you can almost guarantee he's not going to marry you. This hands down is the most powerful thing women hold but give away so so easily. Stop having sex or doing anything else with him. It will not only test his character but it will show you where you stand. If he leaves, that's your answer. If he stays, you have a keeper.

4. You whine too much. (No explanation needed)

5. You're needy. (Ehh, don't be that girl).

6. You're overly critical.
No man likes to be constantly bossed around and tore down. If you always have something negative to say, take a step back and examine where it's coming from. Chances are, if you're criticizing him you're breaking his spirit.

On the flipside here are some reasons he won't marry you that are all his own.

7. He just isn't into the idea of marriage.
Usually your guy will voice this outright. If he shares this with you, there's a 1 in 5 chance it will never change. You can choose to hang around, but there's no guarantee you'll ever see a ring.

8. He has a negative view of marriage.
This may have come from his own personal experiences or the marriages of those around him but it can be a very real problem.  A lot of men feel like when they get married their lives will end. With that said, it becomes your responsibility to ensure him that this won't be true. Show him that you guys can still have fun, go out with friends, and be spontaneous. After all, you're married, not in jail!

I'm sure I missed something and in the process gained a mob of enemies but there it is. 

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