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Dear friend,

I'm so happy you've stopped by. This site was created just for you. It was written from my heart with you in mind and I hope it will change your life, make you laugh, and maybe even shed a tear or two. Enjoy!

Yours Truly,

Vonae Deyshawn

About Me

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

How do you see yourself?

For we are God’s masterpiece, 
created to do good works which God prepared in advance for us to do. 

I'm not one for compliments. 

Whenever one is directed my way, things tend to get rather awkward pretty fast. There's something about them that gets under my skin and makes me uncomfortable. 

For me, compliments are the equivalent of standing on a large stage with a bright spotlight aimed directly at my greatest flaw.


I haven't quite grasped my extreme aversion to them.

Is it because they magnify certain traits?


Is it because I find it hard to internalize and/or accept them?

Quite possibly.

Ultimately, I think it comes down to the fact that others think we're a lot cooler than we actually are. Or put another way, they can see for us, what we cannot see for ourselves. 

As I had this very conversation with a dear friend, Liza, she decided to give me a little perspective. (More like a slap) Smiling, she proceeded to ask me what I thought was the most beautiful animal in the world. 

An otter I answered confidently.

That was until I saw the look on her face which was in total disagreement. Trying again, I offered up the beautiful and majestic horse, which pleased her a lot more than my original blunder. 

I'll never forget what she said next.

"And do you think for a second, that a horse in all it's beauty and grace is ashamed of how God made it? Why are you?"

Wow. There it was. That was enough to kick me in the butt for the next couple of months. No Liza. You are right. The horse is a beautiful animal that walks confidently in all its intricate glory and grace; never doubting its ability or stature.

Isn't it time we take a cue from the horse?

I believe the time has come when God is calling His women to start walking fully and confidently in all that He says we are and are called to be. More importantly, shouldn't we be able to see ourselves in the light that others esteem us in, rather than relegating ourselves to depths that make us more comfortable?

In Ephesians 2:10, we are reminded that we are God's masterpiece. His very own work of art. One that He is crafting, shaping and modeling into His own image. Placing a stamp that says "mine." He calls you, me, daughter, friend, chosen, loved, beautiful, redeemed, set free, called up, called out, wanted and so much more. He sees us for who we will be, not for who we are now. 

God made each of us special for this very time; this very moment. He made us to shine bright in our sphere of influence. So it's time for us to stop dimming our own light in order to keep the attention off of ourselves. If God has entrusted you with a platform, sphere of influence, or a word of encouragement, it is our responsibility to use it.

It is finally time for us to start seeing ourselves the way others see us.

The way God sees us.

1 Peter 2:9  – But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

Sunday, February 22, 2015

A Time for Everything . . .

"There’s an opportune time to do things, 
a right time for everything on the earth." -The MSG

Hello my beautiful friend! It is no secret that I took a break from writing. I've come to realize that there are seasons where I have a lot to say and seasons where I shouldn't say much at all. So much so, that I've come up with a personal statement that has sort of become a "mouth check," for me.

Are you wondering what it is? 


Well, I'll tell you anyway.

"Speak life, or don't speak at all."

There it is.

Hence my extended time of silence. In my recent season of pregnancy with my sweet little baby Sophia, (Yes that is her giggling up above) I found it hard to navigate my word vomit and negative feelings. I spewed here, there, and unfortunately everywhere, until I decided that maybe I should just shut up for a while . . .

And shut up I did.

Doing business with God, I finally saw and embraced that my freedom isn't about me or my personal comfort. It's about the women I have been placed on this Earth to inspire, uplift and hopefully encourage on their journey. 

It's funny how God chooses to move us from one season to the next. How He takes us from a season in the wilderness (A much needed banishment sometimes) and then thrusts us back into our promised land. 

I had considered writing again, had even started a new project back in September, but for some reason, it just wasn't time.

Was it because I was crazy, angry, pregnant lady?


Was it because God knew I would spew words of wrath I could no longer take back once they were printed and bound?


Whatever the reason, I must admit in retrospect, I'm appreciative for the silence.

When the inkling came to write, (I'll call it an inkling, because it certainly wasn't a desire) God confirmed it three times in one day through three separate people. So here I sit, while my two year old and eleven week old sleep,


Trying the best I know how, to be obedient in the moments when God says, 

"It is time."

After all, delayed obedience is still disobedience. 

The best part is, I know that He wants to do the same for you. He wants to move you from a place of waiting and wondering, to a place of action. 

So I ask, what is He speaking to your heart?

Whispering, it's time.

Even more importantly, will you obey?

I hope so.

Every week, you will find an article here that I pray will be encouragement for you on your journey. Some will be excerpts from my most recent project, "More Than: Abandon Your Labels, Embrace Your Calling," while others will just be things I've learned or am currently learning. If you haven't jumped into the pages of that book, I pray that you will consider starting down the path of uncovering your purpose and stepping into your calling. 

Until next time, I love you.

Friday, September 5, 2014

Time for some Inventory

Happy Friday!!

Can you believe we're already in September? It baffles me how fast time pasts.

The other day as I was scrolling through the hundreds of notes on my iPhone, I came across my "Forward List," for this year. On January 1st, instead of making New Year's resolutions, I decided that the word in 2014 for me would be forward. 

As I reflected on that list, I was shocked to see just how much of it I had checked off. How one simple change in attitude and perspective, has allowed me to come so far in these nine months. Staring at that list, I couldn't help but think, "Now what?"

What do I do about the unchecked boxes on my list?

Where do I go from here?

How can I take the momentum of January 1st 2014 all the way through to December 31st 2014?

If you're like me, writing down goals and then going back to evaluate them can be daunting. To take an inventory of where we wanted to go and have actually gone takes courage, honesty and a willingness to start over. 

I don't know what your year has looked like up until now, but 2014 isn't done yet! God still has a plan for this year for you if you're willing to pick yourself back up, look over your list and then decide that the only place to go, is FORWARD.

If there's one thing that I've learned on this journey is that while reminiscing on the past is great, I cannot bring those moments and times back. Sometimes I absolutely don't want to. But what I do know is that whatever is ahead of me will always be so much better than what has been behind me. 

I hope you will do a little re-evaluating with me in this month of September and then take the momentum of January 1st and apply it to make the next four months the best months of 2014!!

Have a great weekend!